Affair Handbook

Should I have an affair? No matter how well a marriage started out, it’s easy for it to become stale over time. Many find themselves looking for a different outlet to express themselves, and that’s one of the biggest ways that affairs are started. Sometimes, a relationship has simply lost that special spark. Sometimes, a deeper issue could be lying underneath. Whatever the case may be, some of the main signs that it might be time to start looking elsewhere can be fairly obvious, and that it might be time to start up a new love affair.



 

The Intimacy Is No Longer There

One of the main reasons a person might decide that it’s time to start having an affair is because their current relationship or marriage isn’t giving them the intimacy it once had. It’s very common for sex to die down when a couple has been together for a long time. Sometimes couples just get busy with work, kids or life in general and it can be hard to find the time for one another. Other times, intimacy might start to fade simply because the couple is bored with one another. They’ done and seen everything that the other has to offer by now, and it leaves no room to try anything new, especially if one half of the relationship isn’t willing to put in the effort to event try. If the lack of intimacy has been a constant problem for the relationship, then it could very well be time to start looking elsewhere for someone who can fulfill those psychical needs. Sex is a basic need for a lot of people, and it’s becoming more and more common these days for people to search for either a casual and constant hook up on the side to help balance out their life. If you’re not ready to immediately jump in the sheets with someone new, or aren’t looking for a random one-night stand that you met at a bar, try looking online. It’s a great way to get some attention on the side without having to actually step out and have a night with someone in person.
 

No Emotional Support

The only thing worse than relationship with no psychical pleasure, is one with no emotional support. While a relationship with tons of sex is great, eventually you’re going to want to have someone to talk, vent or just spend time with. There are several reasons why a relationship might be lacking in intimacy, but it can sometimes be an even bigger blow to the ego when a partner can’t take the time to offer even a little emotional support. Starting an affair because of the need for sex is common, but so is the need for someone who will actually be there to listen. Both men and women often find themselves in affairs if their partner is acting distant and won’t open up in any way. Finding someone who can express themselves and allow you to do the same could be just the thing that’s needed. Having an emotionally charged affair can not only offer the supported that was need, but can also help a person get in touch with themselves and possibly find out what was causing communication issues in the relationship to begin with. Sometimes all it takes is something to help put things into perspective in order to get a relationship back on the right track.
 

Finding Someone Who Can Better You as a Person

As much as no one wants to believe it, people change over time. Sometimes in minor ways, sometimes in big ways. If the change is too big and not for the better, everyone in the relationship is going to be effected. If a partner decides to take up expensive or dangerous habits, or even just hobbies that clash with what made the relationship work in the past, it might be time to think about having an affair. If your partner is taking up habits that are turning them into a completely different person than who they once were, finding someone who can better you as a person might be just what you need. It’s important to talk to a partner and try and set them on the right track to helping themselves, but sometimes it’s necessary to take time to yourself and find someone that can help you in the meantime.

You Miss the Thrill of a New Romance

Sometimes, simply missing the thrill of a new romance (why the thrill fades so fast) can be reason enough to start a new affair. Relationships get old and stale over time. It’s uncommon for any relationship to have the same spark it did when things first started, and that’s normal. No matter who good things might be going, everyone sometimes misses the thrill of that first kiss, the butterflies one gets when going on their first date, or the wild and excited feeling of taking on a new lover for the first time. Getting bored is an inevitable stage for any relationship, but it’s possible to keep that fresh spark alive by seeking out an affair. By keeping things new and exciting outside of the current relationship, it might even rekindle the flame that was beginning to die