There are many different reasons why people cheat. Most assume that a person who is cheating has only one thing in mind, or nothing at all but sex. The truth is that cheating is more than just about sex. It is a total mindset that a person has about the way that relationships are meant to be. With more people going outside of their relationship to gain sexual gratification, it is important to understand the complexity of what goes on in someone’s mind when they make the conscious decision to cheat on their significant other. There are many reasons why people cheat, but below are some that seem to be a common theme.

The media and celebrities
If you open up a magazine or watch TMZ you would get the impression that it is almost a prerequisite to cheat to be a Hollywood star. That makes the average person feel not only like cheating is mainstream, but that it is something that is desirable, or makes you something special. The media messages that we receive about relationships and how they are only holding us back from being sexually gratified, is a major reason why people cheat. They assume that if their favorite celebrities are doing it, then it must be something that is highly desirable. People look up to celebrities out of envy. Having many sexual partners, or the ability to date some of the most desirable people on earth, is part of the envy. The notion that all famous people cheat is simply not true. Nor is it true that people who cheat are happier than those who stay committed to their current relationship. There are many celebrities who are happily married, they just don’t make the cover of the magazines because they are well adjusted and happy.
 

 

Some like the thrill of it
There are some who cheat simply for the thrill of it. The thought that they could get caught only heightens the sexual experience of having sex outside of their current relationship. Knowing that at any moment you could be discovered is a huge rush to some. It doesn’t mean that they are necessarily unhappy in their current relationship, or even that their needs are not being met. For some it is all about the excitement of not getting caught. Having multiple affairs at the same time can only heighten the entire experience. Serial cheaters are usually the ones who are turned on by the risky behavior. They don’t actually ever want to be found out, or lose what they have, they are just driven by seeing if they can get away with it.
 

 
 
 
 
Lack of interest
There are many reasons why people get into committed relationships. Unfortunately, not all of them are realistic. When a relationship doesn’t live up to what one partner thinks it should, there is the possibility that they will search for the fulfillment they aren’t finding, outside of their current union. These are people who are actually looking for a way out. Married, or committed life, isn’t what they expected it to be. They want something more out of life and are wiling to find it at the expense of their current relationship. For these individuals, their expectations were either too high or unrealistic going into it, and they are now looking for a way out.

Learned behaviors
We are what we know. When you had a parent who was a serial cheater, and that is what you grew up with, you are more likely to believe that that is just the way that relationships go. More lax morals taught at home translate into adults with less of a commitment toward their own relationships. Cheating can be a learned behavior from watching adults around you. If that is what they grew up seeing and accepting, that is what they think a committed relationship is all about. Following in the footsteps of their parents, those children who lived in a household where cheating was not only accepted, but the norm, don’t know any differently. To them that is what a “normal relationship” is all about.

The reasons why people cheat are varied, but they are not always related to the way they feel about their partner, or their relationship. Some are learned behaviors, some are media created, and some are just looking for a way out.
 

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