Affair Handbook

When a man begins an affair the last thing he wants is drama from his mistress. He assumes the risk of getting caught by his wife and is aware of her inevitable chastising, but he doesn’t expect that from his mistress. In the arrangement between a man and his mistress her role is clearly defined. She is the ‘other woman’ whose purpose is to fulfill his needs where his wife falls short. The role is pretty straightforward and a mistress normally accepts her role. While it may not be her first choice she enjoys the attention, sex, gifts and more from her lover. However, there comes a time in many affairs where the mistress lashes out. For whatever reason, she is not satisfied with the arrangement and is driven to emotional distress, and oftentimes violence. In the event your mistress does get violent with you, keep a cool head and follow these steps to mitigate any potential disasters:

Defend Yourself
First and foremost, if you are being physically assaulted then you have the right to defend yourself. Hopefully, there is no need to use excessive force, nevertheless, do whatever it takes to defend yourself and restrain your mistress. Again, avoiding excessive force against her is important because if you do any significant damage to her it may be used against you as a powerful bargaining chip.

Stay Calm
Once she has been restrained, there is no need to retaliate, scream or do anything irrational. Keeping a calm demeanor in this case is important for two reasons: You maintain frame and you mitigate any future problems. Maintaining your frame means that you are the one establishing and creating the reality between you and your mistress. You must be the dominant man and always in control. Not only for the sake of the relationship, but women crave dominant and masculine men. Being calm in a time of distress is one of the most fundamental characteristics of being a man. The latter point is that by staying calm you prevent your mistress from doing anything irrational herself. If you were to yell at her or get violent with her, she will likely reciprocate only exacerbating the problem at hand. If you remain calm, she will follow suit.

Talk About It
Men are not as in tune with their emotions as women. It is also difficult to put yourself n the shoes of a mistress, but for the sake of maintaining the relationship try to have a conversation. The obvious focus is the catalyst as to what made her lash out in anger. Perhaps it was a recent event, or maybe she’s been suppressing her emotions and the pot finally boiled over. Again, remain calm and collected. Ask her questions, and let her do the talking.

Leave
You should be wary of ever bringing a mistress to your own place, so this assumes that she has gotten violent at her place. In this case, it is a good bet to just leave. If you were able to calm her down, there’s really no reason that you need to stay unless makeup sex is on the table. Otherwise, avoid any potential disasters and politely excuse yourself.

Find Out Where You and Her Went Wrong
What could a man do to force a woman to resort to violence? Many things, but it’s not always a man’s fault, and violence is rarely justified. However, if you do want to keep this woman in your life it is in your best interest to find out you did that she just could not tolerate. Or maybe it was something she did? People are often quick to put the blame on others as it makes it so they don’t feel guilty themselves. Don’t be afraid to tell her how you really feel. This is a time to lay down any new guidelines you feel are necessary. Don’t have this conversation immediately after the fight. Leave, wait a while, and see if she wants to reconnect. Meeting in a public place may be a good idea in this scenario as it prevents her from making a scene and getting violent.

Ask Yourself If It’s Worth It
Every man has his own reason for going into an affair, but I think it’s unanimous that man aren’t willing to tolerate negative behavior from a mistress. If a man cheats on his wife because she is unpleasant to be around, then why would that man want another woman who does that? Having a women cry, kick, and scream is one thing, but resorting to violence is a whole different ballgame. There is no reason for you to invest time and money into a girl who disrespects you that way. Unless she swears to you that she will never do such a thing again, don’t hesitate to break things off for good.