Affair Handbook

When you’re looking for someone to give you what you’re lacking in your marriage – passion, romance, kink or all of the above – a younger man might be just the one you’re looking for. We will touch on all the different reasons this is true below. After reading their will be little doubt left younger men are the clear choice when it comes to having an affair. Being a cougar is a wonderful thing, especially when you’re looking for a discreet relationship. Here are some reasons why you should look for a younger man… and some tips for snagging him.



 

He’s Less Likely to Get Too Serious

When you’re over 30, men your age are more likely to be looking for someone to settle down with. Unless you’re having an affair with someone who’s also in an unfulfilling marriage – which can be dangerous, because it doubles the risk of someone outing you to a spouse – odds are high that he’ll start looking for more commitment than you’re ready to give. Angry breakups – The Top 50 Angry Break Up Songs – with a lover are dangerous things, especially when you don’t want your affair to come to light.

The solution? Date younger. Men in their early 20s are much less likely to be planning marriage, and if they are, they’re probably picturing a wife close to their own age. It’s much easier for you to keep things on a casual basis with a guy who’s unlikely to start building his fantasy future around you.
 

He’s At His Sexual Peak

Men hit their sexual peak in their 20s: their libido and their stamina hit a high point there and it’s downhill ever after. Women, on the other hand, hit theirs in their mid to late 30s. When you marry a man your own age, in other words, you’re going to want it more as you grow older and he’s going to want it less. Why not take advantage of those mismatched sexual timelines and pick a guy who’s at the perfect time of life to give you what you’re looking for?
 

He’s Ready to Learn

One of the greatest things about dating a younger man is that he’s still learning – about dating and sex, for one thing, but about so much more in life. You’ll find him far more willing to listen to advice about sex from you than a lover your own age or older would be. Sure, he might not have the technique or polish of an older man, but for every older man with technique and polish there’s a guy who just jackhammers away and thinks he knows all he needs to know.

If you happen across a younger man who tries that, he’ll listen when you suggest a better way! What more can you need? It’s a public service… with benefits.
 

How to Make It Happen: Dating Sites

So, you want to find a younger lover. Where and how can you pick one up? Dating sites and apps are a great resource for meeting younger men in your area. There are a few things you’ll need to be careful about, of course: don’t use your real name on a dating site if you’re looking for an affair, and pick photos that don’t show your face. You don’t want someone you know stumbling across your account and going in search of an explanation.

Most dating sites will give you the option to narrow your search by age or to show the age range you’re looking for. Be honest about who you’re looking for. Yes, a lot of younger men are looking for women their own age, but not all of them are. You don’t want to snag a young man who wants a woman his own age. You want to snag a young man who wants you. He’s out there, and he’s the one who’ll really make you happy.

Catching His Interest

When you’ve found that young man looking for an older woman, you’ll have to catch his interest. Try to avoid bringing up anything that makes you sound out of touch – talking about music is probably a bad idea unless you’re talking jazz or classical, for example, which are both old enough genres that the two of you are united on the same side of the generation gap.

For the same reason, limit movie talk to anything released in the last five years unless he’s the one to bring up older movies. If he likes them, you’re home free; if you bring them up and discover he’s clueless, it’ll make you sound out of touch. That’s the last thing you want to do.
 

Dress “Young”

Today, that doesn’t have to mean dressing extra sexy: the kinds of clothes that are flattering on a twenty year old are often no longer flattering on anyone older. It does mean avoiding styles that are too formal or too matronly (knee-length dresses with accent jewelry, for example, or work-appropriate pumps.) Think about shorts or skinny jeans with flattering T-shirts as an option, or leather jackets over a brightly colored or metallic shirt that shows off your cleavage. Your inspiration is what kids in college are wearing now, as long as it’s a style that works for your body.