Affair Handbook

Much of the time we will find ourselves drawn to the familiar in life, in marriage, and if we aren’t careful, even in our affairs. This is exactly what you do not want to do. The entire point of having an affair is to experience something different and something new. If you just get the version of your wife who is ten years younger, you might as well suck it up and stay with your wife. This one will age in time, too. If you are going to try out something different and something new, you need to go all the way with it, and to be ready to be a little bit uncomfortable. It can be odd to date and fool around with someone who isn’t your normal type, but it is a good learning experience, and you might find that you really enjoy yourself. Remember that this doesn’t mean you should go for someone you think is physically repulsive in the slightest. Always be attracted to the person you are pursuing the affair with, otherwise your only moving a step in reverse. It is the personality and the attitude that are most important, and if you keep that in mind, you’ll spend less time on the boring and a lot more time on the fun.

1) Change

If you are thinking about starting up an affair, it is clear that you need some change in your life. Getting stuck in a rut is never fun, and if you aren’t careful you’ll end up repeating your same mistakes over and over again until it feels like you’ll be stuck in the cycle forever. The best way to get out of that mindset is to basically get over it and make a conscious choice to make a change and break the chain. So if your traditional favorites are needy and submissive, try something different and go for an independent, dominant lover or vice versa. Make sure that you are willing to step into the different role, or your relationship won’t last very long.
 

2) New Experiences

You might find a whole new world that you didn’t know anything about before you stepped into the new role into your relationship. If you go into it with a mind to experience all that your new lover has to offer you will be able to get a feel for liking or disliking what is going on. If you aren’t a fan, leave it be and go find something new to try and experience. You might not something that you are super into the first change you make, but it is important to try out new ways of doing things to see if you might find something that will really spice up your life. That can mean anything from using toys during sex to having sex with someone of the same gender or even just trying some new hobbies. In any case, you’ll be able to learn something new and see if you might want to try it out.

3) Refresher

If you try a lot of different things and find that you don’t like any of the people that you’ve been with, it might be time to look back at the relationship that you already have and try and figure out what appealed about your husband or wife when you first met them. Perhaps your spouse changed, or maybe you did, but there was most definitely something that you liked about your spouse before you married them. If you need to look back, so be it, and if you need to look forward, then do that. It’s all about doing what you want and finding what you need, which just might be going back to your spouse with fresh eyes.
 

4) Excitement

Arguably the most important result of an affair is it’s novelty and the sheer excitement that it produces. If you want real excitement get someone new and different. It is akin to skydiving, it isn’t something that you would normally do at all, especially not on a regular basis, but maybe it is something that you always wanted to try. You should always do what you want and pursue who it is that can give it to you. Everything from just the fact that it is an affair to the possibility of trying out new ways to go about relationship dynamic and sex is enough to get the blood boiling and ready to go. If you can find the will to evaluate your pattern and make a choice to seek out someone different, you will be so much better off, no matter what the outcome is. You might find someone you’d rather be with, or you might got back to your partner after a walk on the wild side. In either case you will be learning and experiencing, which is the most important part of having an affair.