Affair Handbook

There are many reasons men and women have affairs. Click here to See the list of reasons. Some are the same but some are very different and unique to the female experience. Science and technology have taught us long ago that women are simply wired different than us emotionally. While we all look for someone who is attractive to us in our own particular taste, women also look for other things. Women look beyond the façade of what most men show the world and search for something they really need, even if only for a short time.

Humor

People love to laugh but women seem to put a bigger emphasis on it during a relationship than men. They want great sex and passion etc. but also need to have fun and laugh and be with someone who can do those things. This is especially true when they are searching for an affair partner. Most often long term relationships turn into humorless drudgery or a more brother and sister type comfortability. If you can make her laugh as well as send those all-important shivers down her spine, you’ve got it made.

Kindness

Opening the door for the old lady at the market, helping a child cross the road or donating his time to a charity can be a super turn on to any woman looking for a man to spend a short amount of time with. It is a bit of a relief to know that this is a man who has a heart and cares about something and not just a boozehound or a skirt chaser.

Good Kisser

Being a gentle but passionate kisser means a lot to a woman even if the relationship is a short lived affair. VIDEO: How to be a good kisser. She wants to feel special and turned on at the same time and if you can’t do that, why waste time on you? After all, she is doing this for the same reason you are; to fulfill something she doesn’t have at home.

Take Your Time

Take your time when making love to her. Rushing through it is fine when the moment calls for it but we don’t want her to feel like it is a wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am situation. There needs to be some respect to detail and the body lying in front of you. Foreplay is essential. You cannot rush into sex when you’re having an affair.

Good Listener

Someone somewhere once said people don’t listen to understand but to reply. It seems very true in today’s society. We all want to have that witty comeback and be known as the guy with the great one-liners. What women want, however, is a much quieter trait. Women want to have a conversation with a man that she can tell is listening. Someone who pays attention to what she’s saying and can reply with a comment that shows it. Listening is more than just a witty reply. It means you hear what she’s saying even if you can’t fully relate. It means you can validate how she feels and thinks without necessarily relating to her.

Drive

A man with a plan for his life is super sexy. Women love a man who knows what he’s doing and what he’s going to accomplish. Confidence is hot in both sexes so don’t overlook it. Much more than confidence, however, women find drive and purpose irresistible. When work, career and future mean something to you it tells us that you don’t want your world turned upside-down, in turn ours is safe too.

Honesty

Everyone alive knows honesty is important in every human relationship but women look for a specific kind of honesty in a man they are going to have an affair with. Call it female intuition but there is a certain feeling women get when the man isn’t up to par. Maybe he’s playing games with two or three different women or perhaps he has money on the mind or some other ulterior motive. Whatever it is she can tell eventually and then you’ve both wasted a fair amount of time.

When a woman is looking to have an affair she sets out to find the traits we just talked about. It may be subconsciously, but she will seek out a man that has the above traits that are most important to her. If you find a married woman you think you’d like a tryst with, remember to keep your best foot forward at all times and let her know your drama free.