When searching for an affair partner you need to do more than look for someone exceptionally beautiful. Sleeping with the hottest girl is fun but it can go bad quickly if she’s the wrong girl for you. In addition to looking for a hottie you need to search for other important qualities in your affair partner so let’s talk about them.

If you’re having an extramarital affair it’s important that she is too. In short, you want the girl you’re sleeping with to have as much on the line as you do. If things go badly you need her to have tact and intelligence so she doesn’t ruin her marriage just like you don’t want to ruin yours. Plus, if she’s married there’s much less of a chance of a strong emotional bond being formed. Emotional connection is nice but it’s also when things get messy in relationships. If you have an affair with a single girl you’ll almost certainly get to a point where she asks you to leave your wife for her. You probably don’t want that so you have to string her along or dump her on the spot. Either way you’re playing with fire since she could easily bring your life crashing down if she tells your wife. If she’s married as well then there’s almost no chance of that happening.

You should always avoid a girl looking for revenge because it will always end badly. If she signed up for the affairs site because her husband cheated on her and she wants to get back at him the affair won’t be fun. Instead it will be infused with her anger. You’d think that anger-infused sex would be good but since she’ll likely be thinking about him and how he cheated she won’t really be enjoying it and she won’t be connecting, which will impede your enjoyment. Plus, if you’re cheating on your wife and she’s looking for revenge on her cheating husband you could very quickly become a surrogate and that could very quickly get very messy. These are situations you want to avoid.

If you can avoid hooking up with a crazy girl for an affair partner you should do so. That word gets tossed around a lot with regards to emotional women but I’m talking about something more severe than emotional. I mean you need to avoid the kind of woman that will take a meat thermometer to your thigh in the middle of the night because you weren’t exactly what she wanted you to be. Crazy is almost always easy to spot in emails, instant messages, and especially on the first date. Guys simply ignore it because crazy almost always translates to really good sex. When you set out to have an affair you must resolve to avoid crazy even if it would mean great sex because it will also mean your wife finding out and perhaps her being put in danger (think Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction). Avoid danger and avoid anyone that’s likely to tell your wife of your affair.