There are countless places to take a first date but when you’re having an affair (or hoping to do so) the list narrows considerably. Almost all affairs take place in the same geographical location in which you live so you have to be careful or you risk discovery before the affair even gets going. If you see your wife’s friend while you’re on a date with another woman you can be sure your wife will hear about it. Even worse is if the friend spots you, you don’t see her, and she tells your wife and you get a surprise questioning when you get home that you can’t recover from and you end up outed before you even got to have amazing affair sex. Let’s see if we can help you avoid that disaster scenario.

There’s some risk to an out of town location but it’s far lower so that’s a good place to start. For a typical first affair date a coffee shop is nice but for an affair first date they tend to be too well-lit and well-trafficked to allow for the anonymity you want. You can’t just go straight to the hotel room though so you’ll need to find a better spot. A park is a great idea. You’ll be out in the open but you can hide from the prying eyes of most park guests and there’s almost no chance you’ll see someone you know if you’re in an out of town park. It’s possible to steal a kiss if things are going well without the risk of discovery. Plus, it’s a little easier to pretend that you weren’t talking to anyone in the park if for some reason you get spotted.

A darkly lit bar is a good location too, although you should always be aware of the parking situation. If the parking lot is easily visible from the road and you have a distinct car you need to try and park it out of view no matter where you go. Again, you don’t want your wife’s friend driving by and telling your lady that she saw your car in a bar parking lot at four in the afternoon. Still, it’s a good place for a date as long as the parking situation works out. Bartenders and waitresses and even patrons tend to understand that you don’t go gossiping about what goes down in the bar so they’re not going to be nosy about the two people at the booth in the corner that might be stepping out on their significant others.

The bottom line is that if you’re have an affair first date you need to be discrete because the ultimate goal is to sleep with someone else without being caught. You need to keep in mind that both your wife and her friends could see you and the same goes for the girl you’re cheating with. Make sure you’re discrete in your location and consider all the variables. Sometimes that can be a big pain but it’s when you get sloppy that you get caught having an affair.