Affair Handbook

If you are worried that the love in your affair is getting as lackluster as your committed relationship it may be time to turn up the heat. The problem with any relationship is that once it becomes predictable the magic begins to fade and before you know it, you are sleeping on the couch, or your affair is sleeping with someone else. Predictable sex moves are the one sure fire buzz kill that will suck the excitement right out of a bedroom, or any room. The way to turn your affair on is through a combination of flattery and trickery. If you really want her to stick around and not find someone else to tickle her fancy, you better find a better way to do it yourself. Here are 5 easy ways to turn her on:

#1 Sext her
There is a misnomer that women don’t have that much of an imagination when it comes to sex. That is totally false. Women are sensual creatures by nature. Do I really have to use the book 50 Shades of Grey as an example? Although taught to be good, they like being nasty and they also like when you talk nasty to them. If you want to turn on your affair send her sexy messages throughout the day. Not just any text messages, make sure to describe in detail exactly what you intend to do to her the next time you see her. The raunchier you are the better. We all know that a woman has a very good imagination, make good use of it by taking her through the steps you are going to go through to bring her to ecstasy.

#2 Buy her erotic toys
If you want to really get her engines running, buy her props. Go to one of those adult shops online and don’t buy it to bring, have it shipped to her. Send it to her address, but make sure she knows to expect something from you. When she opens it up she will be pleasantly surprised to see what her night is going to entail. Make sure to get all the toys that are specifically designed for her. That doesn’t mean that you can’t bring your own set, but you want her to know that the night is going to be focused on making her feel good all over.
 

#3 Help her to leave the day behind
Women aren’t the type of creatures who can just shut the worries of their day out and focus on themselves and their own pleasure. If they have had something going on during the day, they are most likely revamping it over and again. If your affair has her mind on other things, is focusing on other stressors, or just isn’t into it, it may take some coaxing to get her in the mood. Don’t push yourself on her, or make it feel like an obligation. Do what you can to get her in the mood by helping her to forget the day. The last thing you probably want to do is discuss what happened, but allowing her to vent will let out the anxiety so that she can focus on other things, like you. If she has a clear head she will be more willing to fill it with sex thoughts. Start a bath for her, listen to her talk through her day, or just get her a nice glass of wine. The idea is to help her de-stress and let go of the bad thoughts.

#4 Take her cues and go with it
There are times when she will just feel you out haphazardly. She may not be totally committed to having sex, but she may be testing the waters to see if it is something that you are on board for. No matter how half assed her approach is, match it with something much more willing. If she is sending you out cues that she may potentially be in the mood, pick up the ball and run with it. Be thankful that she is putting in the time and effort, and let her know that not only are you interested, you would love to see where she is able to take the ball and score.