Affair Handbook

For what could be a myriad of reasons, your spouse is no longer keeping you satisfied. Whether it be her performance in the bedroom (or lack thereof), her declining looks, conflicts with work etc. you’ve decided that an extramarital affair is in order to keep you fully satisfied.

Depending on how long you’ve been in your current relationship, it may have been a while since you slept with another woman, let alone flirted with one. You may feel that you’ve lost your ‘mojo’ and don’t want to go out and find a new girl.

This leaves you in a state where you want to settle for the easiest option. In many cases that’s going to be a close friend of yours, your wife, or someone else within your social circle. While these women are within reach, seeking an affair with these women, even when they’re clearly interested, is asking for trouble.

Here are a few reasons to always have an affair outside of your circle of friends:

Avoid a Potential Guilt Trip
It’s been a few months since you and your mistress began seeing each other regularly. Things have been going well, but then things start to become more serious. There’s a good chance that at some point during an affair at least one person is going to feel some sort of guilt. Perhaps you feel nothing, but maybe your mistress does. In most cases, she could simply end the relationship, but what happens when this woman is part of your circle of friends? What if she knows your wife well? If this is the case, then it is very likely that she may confess the affair to your spouse.

The best way to avoid your mistress feeling any remorse is to never speak of your wife in an affectionate matter. This doesn’t mean you need to berate her, but if the mistress senses that you have strong feelings for your wife, more-so than her, she will question her role as the dreaded ‘Side Chick’.

It May Cost You Your True Friends
When having an affair, you’re bringing a great deal of risk on yourself. When you decide to start an extramarital affair, you should do everything you can do mitigate the possibility of potential losses; in this case, your friends.

One of the most important qualities of a friendship is trust. Friends must be able to have an unspoken agreement that their lives are as they say and as they appear.

Can you imagine a scenario in which it comes to light that two people in a social circle are found having an affair? This blow can singlehandedly cause the collapse of a friendship.

Put yourself in that situation. A close friend of yours is found having an affair with another close friend of yours. At least one of them is (or was) in a relationship. Your entire perception of this person has now been turned upside down.

The reality is that most people will not be able to condone an affair, and if your friends find out that you’re engaging in one it could lose you one friend or many. Don’t take this risk. Having an affair may cost you, but there’s no reason to sacrifice your friends in the process.

Increased Risk of Getting Caught
Again, affairs are risky business, but there are a number of ways to reduce the chance of getting caught. There are also a number of ways to increase your odds of getting caught, which you must avoid at every turn.

One of the most important rules of having an affair is that you must keep your mistress out of your regular social life as possible. This means that you never introduce her to friends, family or acquaintances. It also means not bringing her to places you frequent in the event you cross paths with someone you know. As soon as one person that knows you or your wife catches a glimpse of you with your mistress, your cover is blown.

It’s Double the Trouble
Having a mistress means that you are accepting responsibility if things go sour. For example, you’re putting potential friendships in jeopardy when having an affair.
Another factor to keep in mind when you have an affair within your social circle, is that the mistress is going to face these circumstances as well. Even though she is a mature adult, it is a good idea to mitigate any potential lasting damage for her sake. Having an affair within your social circle is only inviting more trouble into an already delicate situation.

As you can see, having an affair within your own social circle is a recipe for disaster in that it ignores the most fundamental principles of doing so: Discretion and damage control. If you’re going to take the plunge into an extramarital affair, at least put in the effort to doing it the proper way for your sake and hers as well.